Things got cancelled this week that I didn’t even know COULD be cancelled (looking at you, Catholic Masses even in Rome??). A lot of these frankly don’t impact me at all (I haven’t watched live sports in YEARS because I didn’t want to pay like 5$ a month…sorry Dad), but some of them really, personally do. Events I’ve been looking forward to for months or weeks or dreaming of for a long time are either cancelled or postponed indefinitely, and I know I’m not alone in that. A lot of really important events are either outright cancelled or up in the air right now, from graduations to weddings to first time, saved-for dream-trips to the spring of your last year of college or high school.
I’m in healthcare (like, I’m physically there. Not helpful yet.), and it really does look like isolation and cancellations are the right move here—for all of us, and especially for those who are vulnerable and deserving of thought and care at this time. This is a fact, end sentence.
In talking to some of my friends—medical and not—the current state of affairs and disappointments have left a lot of people confused, anxious, sad, isolated, and—well, basically, this:
Oh, and also in fear of running out of toilet paper and frantically ordering a bidet online?
All this to say, it seems a lot of us have many conflicting emotions right now and may be at a loss at how to hold of them at once, or allow all of them to exist in the same moment in time (i.e. “I can’t be upset about this because other people are sick/overworked and in danger/ have it worse than I do.”). I feel that way, and I’m sure many of you do, too.
It has been my experience that we’re all better people when we own up to our more *ahem* difficult to process emotions, including the seemingly mundane grief over things that have been lost in the next few months.
Below, I’ve attached some prompts to think/journal/reflect/pray/yell at your best friend about as we all deal with the things that we will have to give up for the good of our communities. I may be the only one with 1000 emotions at any given time, but I get the feeling (that’s 1001, huh) that I’m not. A lot of the prompts are also based in certain therapeutic principles I’ve read up on (i.e. guided by that learning these are NOT therapy…obviously. If you want prompts from a legitimate therapist please visit the lovely @lisaolivera’s instagram page.)
When we let ourselves experience our multitude of emotions, we’re more able to show up to others and be in community, instead of being all sensitive and prickly and curmudgeonly in our separate spaces. If you do reflect through these questions, maybe try talking about them with someone who’s going through the same thing. We’re all in this—hopefully we can make efforts to all be in it together.
Reminder—I am not in any way a currently qualified mental health professional nor are any of the above suggestions anything other than from personal learning, reading, studying and sharing. Take these posts with the same medical authority you would give a pinterest post—i.e. none. If you feel like you or a loved one are in a situation of harm to yourself or others, please reach out to a professional or mental health hotline found here.
See ya soon friends,